Big Dick Energy. GET SOME

Confidence without Cockiness ..

When you hear the phrase “Big Dick Energy” who or what comes to your mind?

For me, I automatically think of Rihanna; Her confidence, her style, her .. confidence. The way she’s able to capture an audience full of people with a simple look or how she wears a simple t shirt but her energy makes it much more than a t shirt. It’s just her all around confidence that makes you think, “Damn. That’s Big Dick Energy.”

Now, let’s rewind here actually. Before you get to thinking “Rihanna doesn’t have a penis .. I don’t have a penis .. how in the hell does Big Dick Energy relate to me?” OH SIS. It relates. Someone on Twitter explained it perfectly last year:

“ 'big dick energy' is confidence without cockiness. it is never misplaced, and it cannot be simulated. it is the sexual equivalent of writing a check for $10K knowing you got it in the bank account thank you for attending my TEDxTalk “-@priya_ebrooks

So .. why this topic? I’m glad you asked. 

I think we all hit a point in life where our confidence goes down just a tad. Maybe we don’t feel as beautiful as we used to or we don’t feel as accomplished. Honestly, the whole aspect of comparison culture has kicked in and we go through bouts of not feeling up to par with so many different standards. Just me? Oh .. cool. Well, when you possess a certain energy .. Big Dick Energy if you will, it literally doesn’t matter what you look like, what your occupation is, or what other people in your field, industry, lane .. what ever, are doing. It’s all about YOU AND HOW YOU CARRY YOURSELF. 

I won’t keep you long, I just want to share a few tips and tricks on how you can walk and talk BDE and spread that energy everywhere you go. Ready? 


  1. Make Fear Your Bitch: 

Honestly, the concept of fear is so strange right?! Especially when you know you’re destined from something but you’re holding back or scared, why is that? Actually, it doesn’t matter because remember .. BIG DICK ENERGY. Move past fear and KNOW WHO YOU ARE. The things that terrify you? Do them and do them wholeheartedly, even if it’s something as simple as shooting your shot with someone … DO IT! “Fear? I don’t know her.”

2. Be In the Room 

How many times have you gone to an event or even a party or stood back in the corner? Or felt like you weren’t deserving of being there? I can’t lie, I’ve done that but it reminds me of something my mom told me before. “You’re in that room for a reason, embrace that you’re there and BE in the room.” Don’t just exist when you go somewhere, COMMAND the room and make your presence known. [Click to Tweet] Even if it’s just by one person, you didn’t step out just to be a fly on the wall. Where’s the fun in that? 


3. Make Your Next Move Your Best Move

Okay, cliche saying but hear me out. How many times have you started a new project or some type of new venture just to get bored with it and leave it behind? I’ll raise my hand in shame as well. BUT, the next thing you want to tap into, do it with intention and make it your best thing yet. Let that BDE take over and turn you into a boss, let that project that you’re starting to become so successful that it creates another business idea for you which turns into you creating a multi million dollar empire for yourself. In this age of social media, we see it happen so often, so it’s not a far fetched idea. Picture yourself at the head of a round table calling the shots in your finest power suit.. Thaaaats Big Dick Energy. [Click to Tweet]

4. Be Unapologetic

STOP. ASKING. FOR. PERMISSION. Do what you want to do, wear what you want to wear, and always say what you want to say. Don’t wait for approval from others to live life on your terms. Don’t dim your light in order to make others feel comfortable. The great thing about BDE is that it encourages others that are around you to step their sh*t up too. When you live a life that’s unapologetic, you inspire others (knowingly and unknowingly) to do the same. [Click to Tweet] Don’t keep it to yourself!

Confidence is key to navigating life especially when we have direct access to so many people’s highlight reels these days. Walk the walk and talk the talk, remember who you are AT ALL TIMES and tap into your BDE Power!

What are some other ways we can tap into Big Dick Energy? Let me know below!

Until Next Time,

Xx,

GBH